MIND MADNESS: WHAT KEEPS YOU UP AT NIGHT?

MIND MADNESS: WHAT KEEPS YOU UP AT NIGHT?

Do you find yourself not getting to sleep due to anxiety, worry, and swirling thoughts that just won’t stop?

Many of my clients and people that I’ve talked to tell me that their sleep suffers on a consistent basis from this mind madness.

When you think about the subject of your thoughts during this anxious cycle, what comes up?

Are there problems at work and you feel helpless and overwhelmed? Are there issues between you and your spouse? Do you worry about your parents’ health and how they will be taken care of?

Have you ever considered that this anxiety and worry is unnecessary, and that there is a way to learn to manage your mind and not have the mind madness anymore?

Imagine laying down to go to sleep, and your mind is quiet. Or, the thoughts that remain are peaceful and enjoyable visions that lull you to sleep quickly.

There are many methods used to work on managing our minds. And yes it is work. It’s a process and requires practice. But, which is better, to keep suffering every night with the mental torment and also every day from sleep deprivation? Or, would it be better to learn the tools to manage your mind, practice them and start sleeping more soundly and living with more energy and rejuvenation?

Here are some of the tools used for managing our minds:

– Thought download (a type of journaling), described in my blog post THE WATCHER / OBSERVER
– Meditation, described in my blog post MEDITATION
– Personal Life Coaching (check out my FB Video: What is a Life Coach?)
– Asking “So what?”

I used to feel anxiety around feeling like I had way too much work and not enough time to do it. These worrisome thoughts would torment me at night and make it hard to sleep. So I know how you feel.

I don’t have the anxiety anymore. I received coaching, and I learned the tools to manage my mind and I use them. This life is much better. There is still a lot of work to do with seemingly little time, but I choose to say “So what?” This brings me tremendous peace.

If you’re interested in finding out more about how coaching can help you manage your mind and put an end to the nightly mind battles, I offer a free mini-coaching session. Click below to schedule.

 


 

I’m a Life Coach, specializing in helping professionals feel rejuvenated and back in control of their lives through better sleep routines. ~ Rebekah Anderson

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FEELING OUR FEELINGS

FEELING OUR FEELINGS

Feelings are such an interesting topic because on the one hand, we as a society spend most of ours days trying to avoid feeling our feelings. And on the other hand, everything we do is driven by how we feel and how we want to feel.

What are feelings actually? Feelings are emotions and they are actual vibrations in our bodies. They are usually described in one word, such as happy, sad, excited, frustrated.

Something so amazing about feelings, that I learned only within the last year, is that all feelings are caused by our own thoughts. They are not caused by our circumstances, life situations, spouse, boss or any other person or thing outside of ourselves. Crazy right?

Think about something that makes you happy, maybe a giggling baby, a puppy rolling around, the perfect beach sunset. Now, think about something that is upsetting, like possibly the people in your life who’ve died, getting denied a raise, getting into a car accident.

Now go back to the happy feeling thoughts! ?

Can you see how just thinking about different things can give you the feeling? It is not actually the thing itself that does it. Even with my examples, maybe when you thought about those particular instances they didn’t elicit the feeling of happy or upsetting. That is because it is the way we think about it that provides the feeling.

For the baby or the puppy, maybe if I don’t really like babies or puppies, my thoughts would be: “I don’t really like babies,” or “I don’t really care about this puppy.” Therefore, thinking these thoughts would not create a happy feeling. Those thoughts could create feelings of discomfort or apathy.

What does a feeling really feel like anyway? One technique to figure this out is to ask yourself a bunch of questions about how you’re feeling now. Take a seat and a deep breath. Focus on your body and what feeling you are experiencing in this moment. Then, ask yourself and answer these questions:

– What am I feeling now?
– Where is this feeling in my body?
– What color is this feeling?
– Is this feeling hard or soft?
– Is this feeling fast or slow?
– How does this feeling make me want to react?
– Why am I feeling this?
– What is the thought or belief that is causing me to have this feeling?

By asking these questions and answering them, we are becoming more in tune with our feelings and our thoughts causing them. Why does this matter? Because we have the power to choose our thoughts and subsequently how we feel.

Many of us go through each day on autopilot and many of our emotions range from anxious and frustrated to overwhelmed and discouraged. And, because we often think that we don’t want to feel these feelings, we try to avoid them by zoning out with eating, drinking, TV, social media, etc. However, tuning out doesn’t make them go away. The feelings persist.

Once we do get fed up with feeling this way, we will often try to change our circumstances to change the feeling. If only I could get a new job, new house, new spouse, for my kids to behave better, then I will finally feel better and be happy, or at least just not this way that I’m feeling now.

The bummer with all this is that the circumstances will not change the feeling, only our thoughts change the feeling. Sometimes we do change the circumstance and feel better for a while, but that is because we changed our thoughts too.

Another interesting feature of feelings is that our feelings drive all of our actions. Meaning, anything we do or don’t do in life is driven by how we feel.

I like to use part of my morning meditation and journaling time to decide how I want to feel that day. Often during the workdays, I’m choosing feelings like, motivated, driven, accomplished and abundant. On weekends, I’m choosing fulfilled, relaxed, peaceful and grateful. I like to mix it up. And it totally works!

How often do you notice your feelings? Do you make a deliberate choice to feel a certain way each day? How would your life be different if you chose your feelings rather than let them happen by default?

I can help you dig deeper with experiencing your feelings, and choosing how to feel each day.

 


 

I’m a Life Coach, specializing in helping professionals feel rejuvenated and back in control of their lives through better sleep routines. ~ Rebekah Anderson

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THE WATCHER / OBSERVER

THE WATCHER / OBSERVER

One topic that comes up in Life Coaching is the Watcher / Observer concept.

This concept is about how we can watch and observe our own thoughts in a conscious position that is kinda like stepping outside of ourselves.

As the Watcher / Observer, we can look at our thoughts as separate from who we are. Our thoughts are just there as a separate entity. As the Watcher, we can observe the the thoughts we are thinking without judgement and then decide if we want to believe these thoughts or not.
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MEDITATION

MEDITATION

I started meditating about one year ago. I was first introduced to the idea from one of the coach training courses I’ve completed, the Quantum Success Coaching Academy (QSCA). The QSCA program included many bonuses, such as the Abundance Principle Coaching Program and the Divine Manifesting System by Christy Whitman.

These two programs have similar structure. They included daily activities for 40-50 days straight, like: daily statement/affirmation (different one each day); meditation for at least 15 minutes; journal daily thoughts; visualization for at least 2 minutes; list 10 things I’m grateful for; VAKS exercise; and list 3 actions I will take today.
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MORNING ROUTINE PART 2

MORNING ROUTINE PART 2

As I shared in my last post, the first part of my morning routine Monday thru Thursday includes gym workout, shower, family walk with husband and dogs, then breakfast.

It feels good to me to have established this routine that I created deliberately. The pieces set me up for a great day and great week.

During breakfast, this is my first time opening my iPad and iPhone and I use this time to read articles and blogs sent to my personal email. I go through seasons where certain topics stand out to me. Currently, I’m interested in reading material about content creation, blogging, online presence, etc. Coaching topics are also continually interesting to me.
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