This week, I’m working with some of my clients on the process, Clarity Through Contrast, from the book, Law of Attraction by Michael Losier.
I learned this process from my coach training at Quantum Success Coaching Academy (QSCA).
The process helps us to identify our desires and desired results (goals, dreams, etc), and create the right mental framework for achieving them.
In reference to the Law of Attraction, whatever we’re focused on is what we’re experiencing in life.
In other words, you find what you’re looking for.
Is the glass half full or half empty? Just depends on how you’re looking at it. And this will be what you experience, and this will be what’s true for you. Your reality.
Do you look for the good in people? Or, are you on the look out for other’s flaws?
You will find what you look for.
Do you celebrate your accomplishments each day, and therefore continue to build momentum toward more and more accomplishment?
Or, do you see the list of tasks that weren’t accomplished and focus on the lack of accomplishment, therefore continuing the cycle of feeling behind each day?
If you want to reframe your focus to look for the positive, and therefore receive more positivity each day, the Clarity Though Contrast process can help.
First, pick an area of life you want to reframe.
List all the things you currently don’t like, don’t want, and are upset about. It’s good to identify these things, which will reveal the contrast.
Once the contrast items are listed, for each item, you then ask yourself the question, “So what do I want?”
Write down what you do want instead.
Let’s say the topic you chose is your work. You’ve identified that you feel too busy and overwhelmed and you’re ready to change this.
You wrote in the contrast list that you don’t like working late every day, feeling behind, and continual interruptions from distractions, notifications and people.
You then ask yourself, “So what do I want?”
In the Clarity list, you answer the question for each of the items you had listed on the Contrast list.
I like ending work on time and spending time with my family in the evening. I like feeling like I am in control of my schedule and task list and being on time. I want to be focused and create distraction-free time-blocks.
When you create your Clarity List, notice how your attentions shifts from the negative to the positive. As you focus on what you do want, you’re setting yourself up to create and receive more of this.
Are you experiencing contrast in an area of your life? What do you want instead?
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Last month, I wrote about focus v. multi-tasking (read it here), inspired by the book The One Thing.
I’ve been reviewing this book again and the concepts around focus, and I wanted to share with you the book’s “Focusing Question.” It’s so good!
“What’s the one thing I can do such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary?”
When we’re thinking about this question, we can look at it in both a macro and micro sense. The authors call it the big picture and the small focus.
For big picture, you’d ask yourself, “What’s my one thing?”
This question suggests we choose one big main goal to focus on.
The one big main goal can also be considered for different areas of our lives.
By focusing on one goal, this helps us with decision making and planning our time. We are clear with what we want and what we need to do.
For the small focus, you’d ask, “What’s my one thing right now?”
To answer this question, we would break our big goal down into smaller steps. Then, we put them in order, one thing at a time.
The book quotes Mark Twain:
“The secret to getting ahead is getting started. The secret to getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks and then starting on the first one.”
Is there an area of your life where asking and answering the focusing question could help move you forward?
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Last week, I started the Oprah & Deepak free meditation experience on the topic of hope.
I enjoy these meditation experiences that Oprah & Deepak conduct several times each year. Each of them has different themes.
I wrote a blog post previously about hope (Read here!), and my mentor Brooke Castillo’s view that hope does not serve any helpful purpose.
She views hope as a passive feeling that doesn’t actually create want we want in our lives. Like wishful thinking. Like dreaming without pursuit.
I can see that perspective, and I can see how other emotions can be more useful in the pursuit of our goals.
However, I have been enjoying the different perspective that Oprah & Deepak provide about hope.
They say that hope is strength and certainty. The strength of hope is an optimism that carries us through uncertain times and hard times.
With hope, we have certainty that we are ok. We know that everything that happens is on purpose.
Hope brings the perspective of possibilities and looking for evidence of positivity in ourselves and our surroundings.
It is the opposite of negativity and pessimism. The opposite of despair and worry.
As a person who embraces optimism, I appreciate these concepts about hope as a positive force.
But I definitely also see the value in recognizing that hope doesn’t produce action. It is maybe a catalyst toward other actionable feelings.
Another mentor, Bill Sumner, The Inevitable You, asks “Is the glass half full or half empty?” and the answer is always that it’s both! It depends on who you are when looking at it.
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The Model Health Show podcast just came out with another awesome episode titled: “Four barriers to break through when building your body and your life.” Listen here.
The four barriers are:
3. Mis-management of time
I found this episode to be packed with tons of great information about being a better person, but of course number 3 peaked my interest the most, being that I’m into time-management talk lately.
They said this quote, which I love:
“To manage your time is to manage your life. To waste your time is to waste your life.”
That statement alone is so powerful. If you’re not managing, you’re wasting. Wow.
This episode listed a few ideas for how to start managing yourself and time:
* Optimize time by chunking. Chunking specific tasks together that are related. When the mind has to switch back and forth between different things, it is less efficient than if it were able to just focus on one thing.
* Saying yes or no. If it’s not 100% yes, then it’s a no. Every time you say yes to something, you’re saying no to something else.
* Take control of your mornings. Don’t let the first things you do be looking at messages, emails, texts, etc. This is a distraction that takes you away from starting the morning on your terms.
* Create a healthy relationship with our devices. Balance. The original meaning of device: division, separation, wish or desire. Devices can connect us but also separate us from ourselves. Make sure we put these things in their proper place.
Time is going to happen. How do you manage yourself within that time?
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Yesterday, I started a beta group coaching program for time-management and productivity for other coaches.
There were two calls, and on the first call, we spent the hour coaching each person and creating a goal for the coming week.
On the second call, we worked on this too. But we also talked a little bit about the concept of “Life Accounts.”
I read about Life Accounts in Michael Hyatt’s book, Living Forward.
Life Accounts represent the categories of our life, like health, relationships, money, etc.
Life Accounts are like bank accounts. In order to keep a positive balance, you must put in more than you take out.
There are nine basic life accounts, 3 each in 3 categories.
- The first three categories represent “Being,” and includes our Physical, Spiritual and Intellectual accounts. As we’ve often heard before, it’s important to take care of ourselves first before we can care for others or things. If we don’t take care of ourselves first, then we have nothing available to give to the other accounts.
- The second three categories represent “Relating,” and the three accounts are Marital, Parental, Social. These are our relationships with significant other, parents, kids, family, friends.
- The last three categories represent “Doing,” and the accounts include: Vocational, Avocational, and Financial. Everything that we do such as job, managing finances, hobbies, household fit into these accounts.
The author recommends creating a personalized list of Life Accounts and naming the accounts with more specific meaning.
The number of accounts should be between 5 and 12. Less than five is not specific enough. More than 12 is too unmanageable.
Once you have your list of accounts, you’ll then rank them in the order that you want to be most important to you at this time in your life.
This order is what you actually want to achieve and how you want to be living. It may not represent how you’re currently living.
But that is where you get to make an evaluation of where you might want to make some changes.
I love thinking about the different categories of my life this way. I love looking at how I’m spending my time and knowing that I’m filling the Life Accounts that are important to me whenever I put time and energy into that category.
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This morning, I was thinking about what is productivity. It seems so subjective. I think we all have different views about what it actually is.
Is it the same as efficiency? Is it about getting the most essential work done in an allotted amount of time? Is it working all the time?
I was thinking about productivity in terms of the thought model. Is it a circumstance, thought, feeling, action or result?
At first, I was thinking that productivity could not be a circumstance because everyone would not agree on whether something or someone was productive, way too ambiguous. Circumstances are facts. Everyone would agree, and it could be proven in a court of law.
Then, I looked up the definition. Dictionary.com defines productivity as a noun:
“The quality, state, or fact of being able to generate, create, enhance, or bring forth goods and services.”
So, the ability to generate, create, enhance, or bring forth goods and services, is productivity, which the definition is saying is a fact.
We are all “able to” do those things, so we are all productive by right. Sounds pretty cool to me!
Yet, I think sometimes we view productivity in terms of how much or how little we’ve produced. We wonder, if we’re maximizing our productivity.
What about productivity as a thought, feeling, action or result? These do also seem to apply.
I can be thinking I’m productive or not productive. It is a thought. What makes it true? If we choose to believe it or not. If we want to believe it, we will be looking for evidence to prove it true. Which ever thought we are looking for evidence for is the evidence we will find.
Do you want to believe you are productive? How does it make you feel to believe this?
If you believe you are productive, do you feel productive? And if you feel productive, do you then continue to produce? And prove the thought true? I think so.
What about the opposite. Do you believe you are not productive? How does this make you feel? Lazy? Inadequate? Worthless?
If you are thinking that thought and feeling those feelings, are you likely to then produce? Unlikely, right? Instead, you might be more likely to wallow, seek distractions, and do anything other than productive work.
Then, you’ll be proving that thought true that you aren’t productive.
The action doesn’t produce the feeling and thoughts. The feeling and thoughts produce the action.
Want to be more productive? Choose thoughts that validate your productivity!
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